5 Jul 2017
Hello everyone! My name is Jen Zelop and it’s a pleasure to be here with you. You may be cozied up in your pj’s or comfy clothes reading this article or maybe in your backyard listening to nature with your shoes off and the feeling of the grass between your toes.
I’ve worn many hats during my life. I feel truly blessed to say that by my standards I’ve lived a very full life. I say by my standards because that’s the main point to my teachings. What is important, what matters and what is special is what matters most to you. Not me, not your mother, not your friends… you.
Through my journey I did feel that there was something missing in my life. The best way I can describe it is by using the word peacefulness. The peaceful feeling of surety, the peaceful feeling of enjoying the present moment, that peaceful feeling of knowing where my place in this great big world is and the peaceful feeling of loving myself through and through.
It was through much soul searching, education, retreats, breakdowns and meltdowns that I achieved what I felt had been missing from my life. I call it the THRIVE foundation. Living your THRIVE life. THRIVE is different for everyone and that’s what I love most about it. What makes your heart sing is different from what makes my heart sing and that is what is so beautiful and so freeing about the foundation elements of living a THRIVE life. I invite you to go on a journey with me over the next few months and read about the elements of living your THRIVE life and in the process watching your THRIVE life unfold.
T is for TRUST
What do I mean by Trust?
Trust is a belief. It is an understanding and a commitment in thinking that life will be beautiful, meaningful and secure whether we are in our brightest or our darkest moments. By having a strong foundation of trust, we can see ourselves getting through our current life storm and we can bask in enjoyment of our peaceful moments. Trust is hope, it is faith and it’s an attitude about life that stems from an understanding that there is a great big universe guided by God who is working on your behalf.
THRIVE trust is living your life in the present – mindfully experiencing today. You trust (believe, understand and think) that life is going to unfold in the best and the most harmonious ways for you. This belief exists at your deepest core.
THRIVE trust is understanding that our external environment is not a reliable source for our happiness because not only is it constantly changing, we know that happiness is truly derived internally by us through our hearts. Therefore, when we are living our lives based upon the foundation trust, we believe our happiness is internal and it allows us to make the most of our days, our moments and our circumstances.
What is Trust’s role in living your THRIVE life?
“You can be fully satisfied with where you are, understanding that you’re eternally evolving. When you get into that place of feeling appreciation of where you are and of who you are, and appreciation of what you are, and you accept that you are a never-ending, always unfolding Being, then you can stand in that delicate balance of being optimistic about what is to come, without being unhappy about where you stand. Find a way of eagerly anticipating future changes, while at the same time you are in love and satisfied with who, what, where and how you be.” – Abraham Hicks
Living in trust doesn’t mean that you don’t experience hurt or disappointment and that dark clouds never come. Living in trust is more about knowing and believing that it is during these moments that we gain our greatest strengths and we come out most victorious even if it is based on no logical evidence.
Trust brings us the awareness that life continues to have meaning no matter what the journey.
The best way to share with you what living a trust-filled life looks like is sharing with you what living in a fear based life looks like – something, unfortunately, most of us do without even realizing we are living this way. Fear is ego-based where trust is heart-based. The truth is: fear is us fearing something. A fear of being hurt, left behind, not loved… this list is long and very individual to you.
What I’ve found to be helpful is understanding that we use sexy words for fear. Words like jealousy, anger, hate, judgement, gossip, comparison, sad, feeling better than, living in the past, victim (Do you know what she did to me? Do you know what he did to me?), lonely, rejection, failure… get the gist? Fear creates separation and isolation. You are separating yourself not only from others but from the Universe. I will use the word Universe but I mean God. You are also separating yourself from your true self. Your soul (your heart). When you live in fear you are cutting your own self off from your heart. Fear is torment. Life is a struggle when we live like this.
What we want! Living a trust-based life. You know that you are a soul with a body rather than just a body. Your physical shape is important but what matters most is your heart. You live in love which means that you focus on all that is good in life, you live in a place of being grateful for all that’s right and when it comes to low level energy like gossip and complaining and jealousy, there is just not time and no interest in your life for that. You know there is a greater force moving you through the storms and when the storm clears you will come out more victorious than you were before.
You trust that in our toughest moments, lessons are learned and we develop our greatest strengths. You feel peace, you are happy and you live in the present moment. Life seems easy. People call you the “lucky” one. You are secure even in experiencing scarcity because you Trust that where there is scarcity, abundance awaits you. You are secure in who you are because even if it’s not where you want to be, you know you are growing and learning and loving and constantly evolving into a better version of yourself.
How do we develop Trust?
You may be asking how do I develop a Trust-based life? Below I’ve listed three action steps that you can incorporate daily into your life.
ACTION STEP #1:
Nutrition and Exercise
You will see Nutrition and Exercise in every aspect of the THRIVE life! It is the very foundation. Our bodies are our temples and we must take care of them! If our minds and bodies must process through junk food, sugary drinks, overuse of coffee and alcohol and overuse of exercise, we can’t accept the THRIVE life. When our minds are foggy we barely can get through the day never mind comprehend what our heart is saying to us. A strong physical foundation is important for building our best THRIVE life. Follow a clean diet at least 5 days a week and engage in exercise 3-5 days a week with the remaining days left for fun and active movement. There is a trend right now to over-exercise and eliminate food groups. Our bodies love moderation.
ACTION STEP #2:
Do you ever wonder how to pray? When I started praying, I would pray all the time. To be honest though, I was really complaining, begging and even pleading! I would rattle off the 20 things wrong with my life and then finish it by saying, “Help me please.” That wasn’t praying. This was complaining, begging and pleading. Start with a gratitude journal. Every day, even a few times a day write down what you are grateful for. (Please let’s get the spouses and family and kids out of the way on day 1!) Write down everything! I was grateful for roads, the sky, the sun, the moon, the stars, the walls, rocks….you name it, I poured my soul out in gratitude. Soon I realized that my prayers went from complaints to praise. I found that I was walking around in a state of gratitude. The best prayer you can ever say is “Thank you.”
ACTION STEP #2:
Ask for help! Be vulnerable.
Ask someone for help so you can learn to Trust. Let them help you. As humans, we love to help others. Unfortunately, there has been the misunderstanding that asking for help is a sign of weakness. It’s not the case. Asking for help is a sign of strength. We’re not meant to go it alone. Asking for and receiving help builds Trust. Let the Universe show you that it’s working for you! Some of my clients in the past have commented, “I asked someone for help and they said they were too busy.” Okay, so ask someone else! Keep asking. If you are someone who has the mindset of “I’ve got this” – you know who you are, you must show a little give here. Show that you are willing to receive. It’s about giving and receiving. It’s probably why the first person you asked for help said no. You’ve established a mindset of “I’ve got this!” and they don’t believe you need any help. You must be open to receiving to build Trust. If you’ve asked for help, keep asking – and receive it by saying “Thank you!”
I am grateful today for you taking the time out to read my piece. This is my heart talking to you. It’s me being vulnerable and sharing with you how I came from a place of jealousy and gossiping and complaining, and realized I wanted better. I described it above as longing for peace and it truly is best described this way. With that peace though so much more comes: love of oneself; gratitude; abundance; peace; a lightness of oneself; more smiles; more hope; more faith and way more joy.
[Stay tuned for Jen’s upcoming posts on all the THRIVE elements: trust, heart, resilience, intuition, values, excellence.]