Thrive Life: Resilience (Part 3)

R is for RESILIENCE in living your THRIVE life!

(This is Part 3 of a series of articles about creating your best life. Part 1 explained THRIVE and tackled “Trust.” Part 2 talked about “Heart.” To read about that, go to

I have so many wishes for our wonderful world. One of my biggest though is that everyone would stop hiding the truth and start sharing their stories. You know the stories I’m talking about. The ones that gave us our bumps and bruises, the ones where we cried all night, the where we screamed our head off and even broke dishes. The stories that found us crouching in the corner wondering how to go on for another day. The ones that have molded us into the amazing human beings we are today. See, these bumps and bruises, giggles and tears, broken dishes and screaming arguments have given us our grit. Our grit is our RESILIENCE!

What is Resilience in your THRIVE life?

Resilience is about adapting, growing and learning in the face of adversity. It is the mental reservoir of strength that we call upon in stressful times, during major changes and in tragedy. Resilience is the ability to learn and grow from our challenges, rather than letting them define us and even crush us.

Resilience gives us our get knocked down and get back up muscle. Resilience is the belief that there are no failures, there are just ways that didn’t work out. The mindset that mistakes are lessons to be learned and problems are opportunities in disguise. And most importantly, problems, events, people and circumstances are never tied to our self-worth. This is THRIVING!

Resilience is not the amount of darkness. It is how we stand in the darkness

Why you need Resilience in your THRIVE life.

Because you are not THRIVING without it! Resilient people focus on goals and their soul’s purpose – with blinders on to gossip, negativity, obstacles and energy drains. Resilience is what gets us out of bed when we want to pull the covers over our head and hide. Resilience is what drives us to see the silver lining in the darkest cloud. Most important of all – when we hide from our stories, we cut off the flow to our reservoir of resilience, and fall prey to playing the role of victim.

To sum up my story – I was born into a family of raging alcoholics, drugs in my home, teen bullying, obesity, a father who committed suicide, failed marriages and many other bumps and bruises. I LOVE where I came from and I wouldn’t change a thing about my life. I would love to hear your story!

Ways to build Resilience:

Nutrition and Exercise: Your body is your temple. Our health should always be our number one priority. Eat well, exercise often and love deep!

Share your stories! Get comfortable sharing your bumps and bruises. You are always one story away from inspiring someone! Grab coffee with a neighbor and say “Hey, we’ve been neighbors for a bit and you don’t know much about me, I’d like to share something with you.”

Change! Change builds Resilience.
I LOVE this action step! Variety is one of our 6 human needs and change offers us that. Say to yourself that change is good and start making small changes yourself. Take a different route to work. Order something totally different for lunch. Do you ride the 6:37 train every day? Then take the 6:49. Go to a new restaurant you’ve never been; sit somewhere different in your office cafeteria. Any small change!

Every day do something outside of your comfort zone! This is a must for building Resilience in a very proactive way.  I started doing this about a year ago and my life changed and morphed into something more than I could have imagined. Doing this takes guts and will most definitely build your Resilience muscle. Just for the record, you don’t have to skydive! (unless you really want to…..then yes!) Think about how even the smallest actions seriously irritate your comfort zone. You could begin by talking to a stranger in the grocery line, or by sitting somewhere different on the train and striking up a conversation. Join a new exercise class or take dance lessons. The list is endless! You know what makes you feel uncomfortable just by thinking about it. Then do that!

Much love,


Please share YOUR story with me.

Jennifer Zelop

Jennifer Zelop

Experiencing a major life change made me take a look at my life and ask myself, was this the life I dreamed about? Was I thriving? Or was I just surviving? Jen is a health and wellness coach; radio show co-host; gym owner and author. She is also a mom of two boysand lives in Croton with her sons and boyfriend John. You can reach her at or send her an email at
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